Relative Relationships

[kittenspeaks]

For some reason my life has become inundated with people who don't seem to understand the relationship they are in.
Either their partner isn't being forward with them about how things stand.
Or they are being forward and the other partner just isn't paying attention.

Talk to your partner.
Are you in something with the hope of a happily ever after? Are you the right person? Or the right no person.

Here are some tips-
If they don't tell you they love you- They Don't.
If they tell you they aren't in the right place in their life for anything serious- more than likely they aren't.
Ask them outright if you are a fuck, a fling or a forever.
And don't mistake the three.
Fuck is night by night.
Fling means they can be rather dedicated but they aren't fully committed. You have an expiration date.
Forever- well, that one is self explanatory.

So, to those of you out there who are dating someone who doesn't admit they are dating someone...
Those of you who are dating someone who tells their friends that they aren't in it for the long haul...
Those of you who are very specifically NOT being told "I love you"
Those of you who are being told by your boy/girlfriend that they aren't ready for something serious...
PAY ATTENTION!!!
Don't be daft.
Don't set yourself up to be hurt.
Don't assume that they just aren't saying things.
Don't figure that you will change them or wear them down with time.

Be happy with what you have or walk away from it to look for what you really want.
But stop deluding yourself.

Thanks

Comments

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

*doffs cap*
Thankies!!

[baldsug.livejournal.com]

You may want to make this private or an email to the person in question. I imagine you're angry and insulted after recent posts but you have more class than to humiliate someone publically no matter how you couch it in generalities.

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

It actually isn't to anyone specific.
It is to several people or else I would not have made it public.
I can list 9 people off the top of my head that this is directed to.

[drjeep.livejournal.com]

Right on... :)

it was Great seeing you this past weekend by the way! HUGS!

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I know you have had more than your share ot relationship tension so you can sympathize with my little soapbox lecture.

It was great to see you and your wonderful woman!
*hugs*

[drjeep.livejournal.com]

THANKYOU!!!

That is exactly why I gave you the "Right on" :) I know we've both been there and your words ring very true.

Honest Communication is always the best policy. Address things when they come up instead of sitting on them and letting them blow up... and when things are addressed, don't be delusional about what is being said.

I loved this post.

You're awesome kitten. :)

HUGS!

Good advice!

[daucus-carota.livejournal.com]

Incase anyone hasn't heard me say it... I Love karis_straif!!! And he loves me!

Are we "forever"? Who the hell cares???... we are right now and that is more than most people could even imagine and it is exactly what I want! (Well, no doubt we are forever in some sense of the word... pasts and futures together... and perhaps in the traditional sense... who knows and, again, who care!)

Re: Good advice!

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

For what it is worth- I can't picture either of you without the other.
*hugs*

[galangg.livejournal.com]

And sometimes it isn't even that simple... though all in all, exceedingly excellent advice.

I feel a daft in the room.

[lepapillonvert.livejournal.com]

So, I guess that I'll need to talk to my partner tonight during date night?

Re: I feel a daft in the room.

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

*snicker*

Re: I feel a daft in the room.

[lepapillonvert.livejournal.com]

Aw man, A Snickers would be really awesome right now.

Re: I feel a daft in the room.

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

Snicker's Ice Cream Bar....mmmmmm

[poisongirl.livejournal.com]

Amen!
I also agree with the lovely Jean. S and I may or may not be forever, we want to be very much though and that means more than anything.

[kittenspeaks.livejournal.com]

Thank ya sexy!!
And hey, intent can be the world.
And you both have the same intent and that is what counts.
Oh, and if I haven't said it before I really do dig him.